Cosmetic Surgery: What To Ask Yourself First


It seems when you're beyond a certain age, people don't tend to judge whether or not you've had your hair dyed (even though it does impact your hair). Or whether you've had your eyelashes tinted (even though the solution can be harmful to your vision). With cosmetic surgery, there are quite a lot of people who apprehend this particular area of beautifying one's self, and so they should be. Although; negative connotation with various cosmetic surgical procedures has improved over the years. There are still some fundamental questions we should be asking ourselves before we book in to change our bodies permanently in some way. In doing so, you can establish whether or not surgery is 100% the right decision for you! 

Have you done your research?

Make sure you do your research to save any surprises before, during, and after your cosmetic surgery. Researching everything on breast enlargement or reduction from people who have experienced it or watching tummy tuck videos to show you what to expect is advised. It will not only ease any anxiety over your procedure. It will also allow you to find a cosmetic surgeon you trust that has created the image and look you want physically many times before.  Research means you can familiarize yourself with the process, and the downtime you'll experience after your procedure. As well as, whether the procedure you want will require you to take time off work plus what happens if your surgery outcome isn't what you thought it would be.

Why do you want surgery?

When you answer this question, think deeper beyond your answers. If you feel you want to change your lips to look like the Kardashians, why is this? Is it because you want more attention? Or is it because you think the Kardashians embody beauty? Or is it because you want your naked pictures to look a certain way? Or are you doing it for you so that you can feel good about yourself when you look in the mirror? There are no right or wrong answers unless you are, of course, only getting your nose, jaw, bum altered solely because of social pressure and opinion. Bear in mind, if your nose has never previously risen to your attention as an issue before, why now? Is it because you're thinking about changing yourself in hopes that other people will like you? This is a one way never ending street to failure. No one is, and ever will be "perfect" and/or adored by everyone!

What is your current mental state?

If you haven't been feeling what you consider to be in your normal state of mind. Or maybe you're currently taking medication for depression or consistently having out of the norm thoughts. If this is the case, it's wise to leave your cosmetic surgery idea for a while until you're feeling better. This doesn't just count for cosmetic surgery it applies to other life-changing decisions you're thinking of making to. The truth is, surgery can wait until you're feeling better. There is no rush. Cosmetic surgeries and accessibility to surgery are not hard to attain, if anything, it's gradually becoming easier. What you do want is to be 100% sure the decision you make feels good and right for you. Until then, self-care is necessary.

It's essential to be mindful of your reasons when choosing to commit to cosmetic surgery. Maybe you've thought of every angle you can think of. You've done your research, you know what look you want, you're happy with your chosen surgeon, and you've thought about all of it for a while. If you have, then you can book your procedure without any doubts or worry. 



Improving Your Morning Grooming Routine


If you’re anything like us, the morning grooming routine is a sacred thing. Not only is it time to yourself, it’s also time you can spend enjoying and feeling yourself. Getting dressed in clothes you have selected and are excited to wear, waking up slowly and enjoying a nice luxurious shower, getting ready for your professional or personal life and generally feeling the morning optimism that can often strike is a refreshing activity.

There’s no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy this, and if you dread it, then something needs to change. After all, getting ready in the morning is like anything else. It’s all in how you arrange it, how you prepare it, and how that momentum can carry with you into everything else. There’s a reason why ‘waking up on the wrong side of the bed’ is a metaphorical expression to denote someone’s morning routine harmed them.

So, why don’t we take the steps to better our morning routine? This way you can ensure your interest in fashion, beauty and hair maintenance is cared for in the best manner possible, and will yield no small amount of enjoyment.

Let’s explore together:

Your Pre-Routine

It’s going to be a real challenge to enjoy getting ready for the day ahead if you’re half-asleep, somewhat unhappy and uncomfortable in your surroundings. The winter is fast approaching, and the mornings are getting colder. This means that for many of us, even getting out from under our duvet each morning is a challenge that feels tantamount to climbing Mount Everest. And yet, the call of the day is still asking for us.

This means that considering our pre-routine is important. Waking up to the news and weather report from your mobile or personal voice assistant can be worthwhile, and somewhat get you in that morning headspace. Selecting the type of music you may wish to rise to can be a great idea, too. For some, it’s classical, for some, jazz. For others, jumping into the day with whatever is hot right now is also appropriate. There’s always going to be some radio show you can tune into to get what you need, or Spotify playlist you can curate ahead of time.

Then, when getting up, be sure to get a glass of water and take a few deep breaths. If it’s not too cold in your robe, head outside for a second and take a few minutes to breathe deeply, filling your lungs with fresh air. This has a proven and beneficial effect necessary when trying to wake yourself up.

From then, you might decide to switch on the heating, or simply head for the shower. Enjoy a luxurious shower with a little music playing, and then, at the end of the session, turn the shower temperature to the cold option. This can sound insane to someone who isn’t well-versed in this, but you’d be surprised how well it can work. When you feel completely refreshed and awake after doing this, you’ll see what we mean. It can also help you refresh which can be perfect for applying your skincare routine.


There may be some scrubs and other products you enjoy using in the shower to wash your face. We would recommend those with a mineral and vitamin content, and ingredients such as aloe vera that have natural healing properties. For some, a little time spent allowing the steam to open their pores beforehand can allow this to scrub more deeply, but be sure to rub your skin gently when you decide to. 

Then, applying a moisturizer carefully while out of the shower can be your first port of call when starting to get ready. A light and healthy breakfast with healthy fats and complex carbs can be a great idea (such as avocado deviled eggs on toast, depending on your dietary preferences), and will also give you time to allow said moisturizer to do its work. Some have a pre-care and post-care moisturizer also, such as one with healing properties and one that will ‘set’ the skin for your makeup routine.

The Grooming Experience

You likely have your own preferences for your makeup schedule. Sometimes, you may not wear it at all. If working in a professional capacity, often a more understated approach is necessary. You likely have your own routine by now, and whatever helps you feel more comfortable is important. Perhaps you enjoy switching up your look from season to season, or perhaps you’ve treated yourself to a new palette recently and wish to use that on special work days.

However, it’s not always about the exacting nature of your makeup schedule, but how much fun you have while waking up for the day through it. We would recommend investing in a nice dressing table, one you can sit in comfortably without having to worry crouching next to a mirror or getting products on your bedsheets. Of course, you’ll likely not have the luxury of a few servants coming to cater to your every need like an English Victorian noblewoman, but you can make this experience more comfortable for yourself.

We would also recommend investing in more worthwhile products for your grooming experience. This is because using cheap items can not only be less effective, but in some cases, they can cause a safety hazard. Why use a cheap hair dyer when a Dyson hair dryer is a much higher-quality item, will last for a number of years, and has zero chance of overheating or (through proper use) causing burns or dead ends? Like anything, your experience is based on how well you research and invest in the products you utilize.

Organizing all the products you use from left to right can add some legibility to how you get prepared, and ensure you do everything step by step despite being tired from the night before. With a direct mirror carefully placed, you can also ensure you have the most accurate view of your grooming and makeup schedule. A ring light can also help you see more clearly when the natural light of the world outside isn’t quite there. As far as that is concerned:

Consider Light Therapy

The word ‘therapy’ can often denote that something is wrong, or that you have something you need to fix urgently. But light therapy does not follow that too-narrow definition. In fact, it’s something that many people could and should appreciate. When the mornings become dark and the nights draw in closer, it can be that many of us fail to get the amount of light exposure we need to live truly healthy and capable lives. This can often lead to something aptly named SAD, which stands for Seasonal Affective Disorder. Basically, your lack of exposure to natural sunlight can lead your Vitamin D levels to drop, and not only that, but said lack of exposure is something we generally need to feel upbeat, interested and encouraged. It’s why when the Spring months start becoming warmer, you often feel that surge of optimism.

Improving your morning grooming routine can be helped tremendously by fixing this, because it can truly set up your mood for the rest of the day. Thankfully, purchasing a light therapy device (which often looks like a small, illuminated mirror) is a piece of cake. They often run less than $100, and about thirty to forty minutes of morning light therapy is enough. As part of your morning schedule, as well as supplemental Vitamin D tablets, this can be truly worthwhile to utilize. You’ll likely be shocked as to how effective this is, and that’s all for the better.


Remember - beauty and grooming are hardly measures that only deal with your external looks and how attractive you feel that morning. If you always rely on events like this that can change from day to day, you will always find your morning mood to be unreliable. Meditation can help restore you to this end. Perhaps before or after you have completed all of your morning grooming routine, you may decide to segment thirty minutes for your meditation schedule.

It’s easy. Sit in a chair on on your bed with the pillows supporting your back. Then, focus on your breathing from your nostrils. If your attention slowly starts to filter away or you think of something else, don’t berate yourself. Just gently bring it back to your breath. Over time you will be able to go for longer and remain more concentrated. This is like a shower for your mind. You will feel much more awake, alert and also confident after doing this, because it helps you get past your neuroticism (that everyone has), and you can start focusing on the day in front of you, and most of all, the present moment. There’s nothing more beautiful and well-groomed than someone who has taken time for their mental state that morning.

You may add more to your grooming routine, or you may add less. There are no right answers here, just good advice and what works best for you. If you love to partake in yoga each morning, go for it! If you don’t mind getting that extra ten minutes in bed, then go for it! What matters if finding your best rhythm.

We hope this helps to that end.


Going Cruelty Free

Going cruelty-free, no matter how long you have been using makeup is doing the right thing. Animals do not need to suffer for us to feel or look beautiful and, the more access we have to information, the more people have made the change. There are no hard and fast rules about how you go cruelty-free, though. 


The bunny isn’t the be-all and end-all. Sadly many companies will add bunnies to their packaging, but they are the legitimate one. So pay attention to the packaging when you are making a purchase. This goes double if you like to buy new brands and dupes online. 

The real cruelty-free bunny, the leaping bunny, means they have been tested and approved by a regulating body - which has standards to be met. 


This can be tricky. Terminology matters. If you tweet a company and ask if their products are made in China, and they say ‘no,’ that doesn’t mean anything other than their warehouse is elsewhere. If you ask, the more specific ‘do you sell your products in China, do you sell X product there?’ If the answer is yes they sell there it is not going to be cruelty-free. Brands have to opt-out of selling in China to be genuinely cruelty-free. Chinese laws mean that makeup brands who sell there are required by law to test products on animals in order to trade in mainland China. 


This doesn’t mean that you are safe just by shopping E.U. brands. There is a ban on the marketing and sales of makeup that has been tested on animals in the E.U. However, many makeup brands are international - meaning this doesn’t apply to them at all. So they are free to test on animals elsewhere and then sell anywhere they like. You can tweet the brands for more information, or do some research online to find what you need. 


Semantics again, but they will still make a difference if you are asking a brand directly. If you ask them, are their ‘products cruelty-free?’ They can pretty much say yes. There is no real, in stone, definitions of cruelty-free. But if you ask ‘are your ingredients tested on animals?’ that is a yes or no reply. 


When you start making the switch, don’t rush to do it all at once. Swap out product by product to give yourself time to adjust to using new shades and formulas. When you see that you are coming to the end of say, foundation, start looking for samples from cruelty-free brands. So that when the time comes you won’t waste money buying shades that don’t match. It is essential that when you are switching to cruelty-free, that you remember that some of your current brushes are animal hair. It is probably just time to invest in a gorgeous synthetic eye brush set instead. 

Have fun! There is nothing as exciting as finding new brands to test out when you are a makeup lover, especially when it involves saving animals. 

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Maxi Dresses for Winter?


As winter approaches, it gives those interested in fashion the perfect opportunity to update their wardrobe with all of the latest trends. There are some people that seem to think that they have to compromise their style credentials over the winter period as a sacrifice in order to stay warm. However, that is simply not the case. There are some great garments out there that are super fashionable and catered for the cold months. In fact, the art of layering is one of the most trendsetting and important ingredients for any top fashionista. 

One of the best trends to follow this winter is a maxi dress. A lot of people seem to think that maxi dresses are a fashion garment that is only suitable for the summer. Whilst it is true that they make the perfect addition to any holiday suitcase, which is not the only use they are great for. There are some fantastic maxi dresses that are suitable for the winter period as well. And to be honest, they are probably more chic and fashionable.

If you look in clothing stores around the US or on the Internet you will see that there are lots of different maxi dresses available to choose from. You can even get maxi dresses from sustainable clothing brands. This is great because it means that there is bound to be something to suit everyone; no matter their style or taste. However, it can also make it a lot more difficult for those who are at a loss regarding what style maxi dress to buy. Nevertheless; don’t worry, as that is where this article comes in!

For those who are just testing the water with a maxi dress it is probably best to go for a plain one in a simple color, such as black. This gives you a great platform to dress up the maxi dress as much as you like. Moreover it will be a versatile piece which means it can be used again and again to create different looks and styles, yet people won’t even realize that you are wearing the same dress! 

If you want to go for something different then you should try a maxi dress with some sheer elements. Sheer fabrics are extremely fashionable at the moment and they are great for emulating a quirky style or putting together an outfit for a formal look. Alternatively, you could opt for a lace maxi dress. You don’t need to go for overall lace, there could merely be some lace detailing on the neck or other parts of the dress. And finally, if you are feeling bold and brave and want to look super fabulous then you should opt for a printed maxi dress. It’s up to you what print you go for; just remember to stay true to your style.
All in all, if you consider the points mentioned in this article then you should no trouble finding fantastic maxi dresses. All you need to do now is get searching for a show stopping dress.


The Kookiest Trends in Fashion

The world of fashion is built upon trends. The largest fashion houses dictate the trends that will appear on the high street two seasons in advance. What you see on the catwalk in the Fall of this year will appear on the high street in 2020. Of course, they won’t appear in the same concept fashion style as on the catwalk, with the foil collars, the all in one fluorescent boiler suits and skirts for men. Catwalk shows are all about pushing the boundaries, yet the high street retailers will take their cues from the larger designers. Take a look at the kookiest fashion trends in history.

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Low Pants

In the 90s, someone thought it wise to wear their Levis two sizes too big so that their legs appeared clown pant like and their waist allowed their pants to sag even with a belt. There was some sort of kudos in allowing designer boxer shorts to shine through from your behind. This odd fashion trend began in American prisons apparently, as convicts were not allowed to wear belts because of the risk of suicide. However, this could be nothing more than an urban legend. However, this trend has been embraced by the American rap and hip hop scene, with music videos showing many artistes with their hordes of girls surrounding them as they rap in their lowest rise pants with their Calvin Kleins poking through.

Body Piercings

When you think about body piercings in a practical sense, the idea of putting holes in your skin, ears, and other less visible parts of you can seem abhorrent. Yet, body art has become massively popular, especially since the dawn of the twenty first century. What was once seen as standard to have your ears pierced to show off a stunning pair of earrings on a night out, has turned into a way of life for some people. Many people are now choosing to use their bodies as works of art, and they see body piercing as the number one way of doing this. It's not super expensive either. You can pick up cheap nose rings online that look achingly cool, from a rainbow steel hoop to a titanium nose screw. While these piercings sound painful, once they are healed, they can look stunningly beautiful.

Celebrities have chosen to pierce their bodies and relish being part of the body art scene. Millennials are often adorning magazines with nose studs, eyebrow hoops and tongue piercings. For many, this isn’t just a fashion statement, but also a lifestyle and a way to show off their personality.

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The Cone Bra

Who can forget Madonna wearing a cone bra in the 1980s. For Madonna, she had to exude her sexuality and what better way to do this than by wearing her bra over her clothes? What was then seen as risque is now seen as hugely kooky. However, Madonna wasn't the trendsetter when it came to cone shaped bras. These were first introduced into the fashion world in the 1940s, although the ladies that wore them over seventy years ago wore them underneath their clothes. This gave them a pert, sweater girl look; wholesome and natural but exuding a femininity without showing off too much of their modesty. The cone shaped look was hugely fashionable for two decades, but the more natural look became more popular in the 1960s, so the cone bra was put to the back of the wardrobe until Madonna decided to reinvent it.

Shell Suits

The shell suit was once deemed the height of casual fashion. We look back on this 1980s monstrosity now, and know that this is one fashion trend that will never see the light of day again. The shell suit was an oversized tracksuit that had a shimmery external layer that was highly flammable. The shell suits weren’t safe and were dangerous for kids to wear, and yet they were all the rage. Kids TV presenters would wear them, people down the gym would show off their collection of shell suit jackets when working out on the treadmill, and paired with some cool trainers, people were pulling off the ultimate 1980s sports casual attire.

This was a fashion trend that was a real flash in the pan. When people remember their foray into the world of shell suits, it’s a time that they would prefer to forget. They have been banished to the fashion faux pas history books forever.

Fashion trends come and go, with many coming back around and some staying firmly in the past. Kooky can be cool but it can also be cringeworthy. Who knows what kooky fashion trends lie in wait for the 2020 fashion season.



stop settling


Recently a girl reached out to me about her long term relationship and some issues she was dealing with. I felt honored that she respected my thoughts enough to want my opinion on everything....and then it got me thinking. This wasn't the first time I have had this talk with other girls. Hey, I even went through this exact feeling in my last relationship. Its something that I know is VERY hard to admit, not just to others but to yourself....and I hope in writing this and being open about it everyone who may be experiencing the same thing can find solace in the fact that you're not alone.

I have always been in love with love. Falling in love, being in love. Its one of, if not- is the best feeling in the world. Its a certain feeling you only feel with a select few. When your whole body is filled with butterflies and your stomach is constantly tied in knots. When just the mere touch of their hand on your shoulder runs tingles up and down your spine. Just the thought of them makes your body feel warm and your face light up. All you can think about is them. It's like you're living in a dream.

Love can be the most exciting thing in the world. But it can also be the scariest thing in the world. Being that open and vulnerable with someone. Its terrifying. Especially if you have been hurt before in the past.

I've told you before how I stopped believing in love after my last serious relationship. I just didn't think it existed anymore. I use to believe in soul mates. I really did think there was that one person out there for you and some how God was going to bring that person into your life. But here's where things went off track for me.....I knew the guy in my last relationship wasn't the one I was suppose to be with, yet I stayed with him..& put up a happy front. Why I chose to stay as long as I did, is something I still deal with. I knew deep down inside he wasn't the one for me. He wasn't my soulmate. I wasn't even in love with him. Sure I loved him as a person, as my best friend but I didn't have any of those crazy out of control feelings you experience when you're really in love. I mean, I did at first. Maybe the first few months of our relationship but even then things started out really shitty and I think the feelings were more one sided on my part than him.

Now I know those crazy feelings you feel in the beginning do not last forever. I get that. But it had gotten to a point where I didn't even want to kiss him. I didn't even want him to hug me. It just felt wrong. That can't be love....to not even want to kiss. And here I was staying with him, doing everything for him and for our relationship. But why? Why was I so content on making this thing work, when I knew in my gut he wasn't the one. My gut would scream at me..."kelly! he's not the one! what are you doing?! this is wrong and you know it!"

But I chose to ignore it. I made the intentional choice to ignore what my gut was telling me. I would try to justify it with stupid excuses. I was a fucking idiot to say the least. I wasted so much time with someone who never should've had me to begin with.

I realized I was staying in this relationship because it was comfortable. It felt safe. I told myself I rather be with him than get hurt again.

What the fuck was I thinking?

When I really sat down and thought about why I was trying to make it work with this person I knew the answer behind it. I was scared of being single. I was scared of dating shitty guys again and getting hurt. I was scared of being alone. I was basically risking true love and happiness because I was a fucking pussy. Pretty pathetic if you ask me. So I stayed in a relationship way longer than I should've and wasted my time.

However, there is a happy ending as you know....one day it just clicked. That was it. I wasn't going to settle anymore. I wasn't going to try and make this so called "relationship" work. I didn't love this person. This person clearly didn't love me....and did not deserve me. I was done being scared. I wasn't going to let the single life scare me anymore. I realized that I rather be alone and happy then to settle.

So I ended it. I finally did it. It was actually one of the most freeing days in my life. I knew I made the right choice. Thats what happens when you listen to your gut. All of a sudden everything in the world seems right again. There isn't that one thing weighing you down anymore. You're free.

Im telling you this because I know some of you are in the same situation right now and I want you to listen to your gut. Don't settle for good when you can have great. You know the truth deep down. Don't push it aside like I did.

Now the single life as I have expressed many times before has been intense. Dating is harder than ever....& the first few months of being single were hard...BUT it was better than being with him. I never once regretted my decision. And now as it inches towards almost a year since its been over....i am ready to love again. Of course I'm scared shitless to put myself out there and to fall in love....but I have started believing in love again and that feels good. I've learned so much over this past year and I finally feel confident in myself that I won't be settling for anything short of the best. Its going to be scary and there will always be ups & downs...but as How I Met Your Mother said it -

Loves the best thing we do. 

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