It doesn't matter whether you were in a relationship for
weeks or years, a breakup is never easy to handle. There is pain and shock and it can feel like a grieving process; one that you need
to give yourself time to feel. You will feel horrible for some time, but there
will be times where you feel up again before crashing down. Logic has no place
in a post-breakup scenario, and all of the old memories will keep surfacing up
and down while you try and get your head around it!
There are some stages you’ll go through, from wanting to
impulsively go on vacation, to wanting to impulsively burn all of their
belongings! There are a few do’s and don'ts that you can follow to ensure that
you get through this breakup in one piece, and here they are:
Do...
Distract Yourself
Reading, playing a sport, drawing; whatever it is that gets
your juices flowing, bury your head in it. Reading can help you to escape into
the world of someone else’s imagination, and it allows you to get over your
broken heart. Invest in a book that will let you laugh, cry and feel every emotion: those are
the ones that get you through.
Change Your Look
This is probably the one I did the most after every break. For some reason getting a new look always seems to help during this break up phase. Plus, it is no surprise most woman go through a “red hair” phase, and
while you might find yourself drunkenly making a list of all the plastic surgery you think
you need, it might be worth sticking the the box of red hair dye. You don’t
have to change the way you look for your ex, but it would be a good idea to
pamper yourself a little - to make yourself feel good.
Remove Yourself From Drama
Delete his Snapchat/Instagram/Facebook/Twitter - whatever
social media he has, get rid. Block on WhatsApp and don't get sucked into
the drama of the post-breakup spitefulness. You are better than that kind of
behavior, and you know it! Digital detachment is easy when you’ve chosen not
to stay friends!
Don’t...
Share Passive Aggressive Memes
Believe us when we say a scathing meme, when
well-directed, is picked up by the other party very quickly. Don't bring your
breakup to the Facebook pile of memes, as it will get back to your ex. You want
to stay above that behavior and just focus on you. The world does not need to
be involved!
Insult Them Anywhere Online/Publicly
It doesn't matter how the relationship ended, forgive them.
Not for what they made you feel, but for yourself. You don't forgive someone
else to make them feel good, but so you can package it away and move forward
with your own life. Don't allow for arguments, just move slowly on in your own
way.
Burn Their Stuff Unsafely
Here’s the bit where we tell you to safely burn the
memories. Here are some instructions for a safe bonfire for the photos and the
letters you may have written to each other. You don't need souvenirs of your
sadness.
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