Post-Break Up Do's and Don'ts

It doesn't matter whether you were in a relationship for weeks or years, a breakup is never easy to handle. There is pain and shock and it can feel like a grieving process; one that you need to give yourself time to feel. You will feel horrible for some time, but there will be times where you feel up again before crashing down. Logic has no place in a post-breakup scenario, and all of the old memories will keep surfacing up and down while you try and get your head around it! 

There are some stages you’ll go through, from wanting to impulsively go on vacation, to wanting to impulsively burn all of their belongings! There are a few do’s and don'ts that you can follow to ensure that you get through this breakup in one piece, and here they are:

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Distract Yourself

Reading, playing a sport, drawing; whatever it is that gets your juices flowing, bury your head in it. Reading can help you to escape into the world of someone else’s imagination, and it allows you to get over your broken heart. Invest in a book that will let you laugh, cry and feel every emotion: those are the ones that get you through.

Change Your Look

This is probably the one I did the most after every break. For some reason getting a new look always seems to help during this break up phase. Plus, it is no surprise most woman go through a “red hair” phase, and while you might find yourself drunkenly making a list of all the plastic surgery you think you need, it might be worth sticking the the box of red hair dye. You don’t have to change the way you look for your ex, but it would be a good idea to pamper yourself a little - to make yourself feel good.

Remove Yourself From Drama

Delete his Snapchat/Instagram/Facebook/Twitter - whatever social media he has, get rid. Block on WhatsApp and don't get sucked into the drama of the post-breakup spitefulness. You are better than that kind of behavior, and you know it! Digital detachment is easy when you’ve chosen not to stay friends!

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Share Passive Aggressive Memes

Believe us when we say a scathing meme, when well-directed, is picked up by the other party very quickly. Don't bring your breakup to the Facebook pile of memes, as it will get back to your ex. You want to stay above that behavior and just focus on you. The world does not need to be involved!

Insult Them Anywhere Online/Publicly

It doesn't matter how the relationship ended, forgive them. Not for what they made you feel, but for yourself. You don't forgive someone else to make them feel good, but so you can package it away and move forward with your own life. Don't allow for arguments, just move slowly on in your own way.

Burn Their Stuff Unsafely

Here’s the bit where we tell you to safely burn the memories. Here are some instructions for a safe bonfire for the photos and the letters you may have written to each other. You don't need souvenirs of your sadness.

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What Happens to Your Body if you Don't Have Sex?

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People talk about sex as if it's some kind of basic biological function, like eating or going to the bathroom. It's something that people need to do, and if they don't, they're storing up problems for themselves in the future. You wouldn't go without food, so you shouldn't go without sex- or so the reasoning goes. 

But is there any truth to this? Does your biology suddenly go haywire if you don't have sex every five minutes? Or it is a perfectly reasonable way to live? 

The answer is probably somewhere in between. Here's a rundown of what happens to the body when you go without for a long time. 

It Could Make Things A Little Less Comfortable Down There

This isn't an issue that affects everyone, but it is something that affects a lot of women. Going without sex for a long time makes things a little less comfortable down there. The vagina tends to feel like it's tightened up, which can make sex less pleasurable when it finally does happen. 

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It's nothing to worry about though - things soon return to normal. It's just one of those irritating things when you're getting started with a new partner.

Is there anything you can do about it? Well, regular masturbation can help by increasing blood flow. Plus, you can always experiment with toys if that's your thing.

You Could Experience Stress And Anxiety

As the website Mellowed points out, a lack of sex can actually lead to stress and anxiety. Researchers think that there are two main reasons for this. 

The first is a general lack of interest in sex. When libido drops, some women can worry that there's something wrong with them, feeling that they're not "normal." To make matters worse, psychiatrists have an official name for it called Female Sexual Arousal Disorder. The idea is that women should be in a continual state of openness towards sex and that being closed off from it is somehow abnormal. 

The other reason is an overwhelming interest in sex you can't do anything about. When you don't have a partner, it's hard to get your kicks. 

Researchers suspect that having sex releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin that make people feel more connected to those around them. Not having much of this hormone in your body can lead some women to feel isolated and disconnected, increasing the urgency for sex. Again, this can make things even more troubling on a psychological level. 

Your Libido Could Fall

Research suggests that some people can experience a fall in libido when they go without sex for too long. The reasons for this aren't well known, but it could just be the body's way of dealing with the absence of a partner. There's no point making all of the arousal chemicals if there's no way to put them to good use. Loss of libido isn't permanent - it quickly comes back when you enter a new relationship. But it can dissipate for a while. 

The Upshots

While there's a lot of negative talk about going without sex, there are actually a lot of things that are GOOD about life when you're not involved intimately with somebody else. 

The first is the issue of pregnancy. You're not continually worried that at some point, you're going to miss a period. Contraceptives are great, but they're not perfect. Even the manufacturers admit that. 

Second, you're much less likely to get ill. All of the nasty STDs aside, women in sexually active relationships are much more likely to get urinary tract infections than those who go without. These can be painful and difficult to treat, so avoiding them is always welcome. 

Third, you get to know yourself better. Have you ever noticed how intense sexual relationships can be? Even if the relationship is going well, it's all too easy to lose yourself in the thoughts and feelings of the other person. You can often lose track of your own desires and needs. It's a problem. 

Being by yourself, however, allows you to get to know yourself better. You have the time and space you need to find out what you like, and what you don't. It can be a liberating experience. Plus, you can go into a new relationship better prepared. 

Finally, you get more space. If you're an introverted person, this can be a bit of a godsend. You have a chance to conduct your life on your own terms. You don't have to compromise with somebody else. You're more of a master of your destiny. 

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Reasons Why You May Need to See the Dentist Immediately

You’ve probably tried finding a reputable dentist to sort out any pain you’re having with your teeth or your gums. But due to the severity of the acute pain itself, you don’t want to wait around until next week for an appointment.

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There’s a whole host of problems that can occur with your teeth, so let’s start with some of the reasons why you immediately need to sit in the dentist’s chair and get looked over. 

Firstly, and perhaps the most likely situation, is a simple cracked tooth. Often the crack is so small that it may not be visible to the untrained eye, but it causes major distress and thus has to be treated quickly. 

Secondly, receding gums (which can eventually lead to gum disease) is a major cause of tooth loss and other nasty problems due to tooth rot exposure. In many cases, unfortunately, it has often progressed too far to be salvaged, but in some cases, if a dentist is seen as soon as possible then the situation could be rectified. 

Thirdly, if you’ve previously had a filling, then the filling itself is actually prone to become loose or break completely. You may not have known this beforehand, though it’s an extremely common scenario and causes extreme pain around the gum causing it to be even more sensitive. Consequently, if your gums, teeth or mouth are being affected by any of these likely causes then there’s only one emergency dentist clinic and dentist to sign up with. 

How To Find The Best Dental Practice

You may have been recommended dentists before by friends or family. But which is the best dental practice for you? From Invisalign to teeth whitening; you need a dentist you can rely on. Keep on reading and you’ll find out.

Your teeth are precious. After all, you only have one pair that will last you your entire life, so you have to keep them healthy, clean and free from disease and decay. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done, and even if you have made every effort to look after your teeth throughout your life, problems do occasionally occur. And when these occasions do occur, you have to be prepared for every situation by having a qualified and masterful dentist that you can rely on. Someone you can ask questions to and turn to in an emergency.

Finding a brilliant dentist is again easier said than done as one’s preference of dentistry location, interior and personnel is completely subjective. What isn’t subjective though and is completely objective are the results that come out of a dental clinic. To find the most impressive practice in your local area – simply type in keywords such as “(location) dentist area”. After finding a range of available private clinics, browse their website to see which offer the best memberships, facilities and staff members. These are the important parts of a clinic so by doing your researching you’ll find the dentist clinic suited to you and your needs.  

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