so you're probably wondering why I am stating the definitions of a bully. Well its because the word "bully" has become a buzz word or the 'it' word around here in blogland. It seems to be thrown around like an old pair of underwear, when most of the time the word shouldn't even be used.
Bullying is a serious thing. It is something that I had to deal with throughout school & something that has gotten even worse.
So it really bothers me when I see bloggers calling other bloggers bullies. I actually find it funny because if you only knew the real definition of a bully.
When I was bullied I was sent threat letters, got threatening calls. I had to eat lunch in teachers classrooms to prevent from the older kids coming up to me & backing me into a wall scaring me to shit saying their going to beat me up....for doing nothing.
Things were thrown at me, scary notes were put in my backpack. Everywhere I went people looked at me and stared. I was scared to go to school. Every morning when I was dropped off I made my dad wait in the car & watch me until the bell rang so nothing would happen to me. And sadly, that isn't even as bad as it can be compared to some stories I have heard over the years.
It seems that in a mans world sticking up for yourself & being a strong man is admired. But when a woman does it with a little force all the girls are so ready to get their claws out & call her a bully or a mean girl. So explain to me why standing up for yourself & your blog makes you a bully?
Most of us serious bloggers put all our sweat & tears into our blogs. They're our babies. We are proud of them. So when something is so easily copied or duplicated that you worked SO hard on, why is it so wrong to speak up & say something? Do you just expect us to sit there like sheep?
Maybe some of you live that way, but I do not. I have never been a sheep. When I think something isn't right you better believe your ass I'm going to speak up.
Does that make me a bitch? Maybe.
A bully? Fuck no.
It's almost an insult to all the people who have actually been bullied in life to be using this word so loosely.
You can't even discuss anything anymore without someone assuming you're attacking them.
I do believe that us bloggers should support each other but lets also haverespect & consideration to each others designs & creatively.